Abandonment trauma can appear in the form of anxiety, sadness, depression, clinginess, jealousy, fear of loss, control issues, and being an extreme people pleaser. Sometimes, the person with abandonment issues will do anything to please the other person so that they will not leave. Other times, the person will move quickly from one relationship to another, leaving before people get too close.
Abandonment does not have to be physical to have a lasting effect on your life. For instance, having a mother or spouse who is emotionally distant can have the same effect as a physical loss. Abandonment fears may start in childhood, but they can also develop at any stage in a person’s life.